When a Gay Friendship Ends, the Grief Is Bigger Than the Friendship

For a lot of us, close friends weren’t supplemental. They were structural. The loss knows the difference even when we don’t.

15 hrs ago • Gino Cosme

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What Older Gay Men Know About Reinvention

On starting over at an age when everyone else is winding down, and what that looks like

Feb 13 • Gino Cosme

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Boring Love: The Underrated Hero of Gay Resilience

Why the first healthy relationship feels like suffocation, and what we lose when we can’t tolerate safety.

Feb 5 • Gino Cosme

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January 2026

The Rivalry We Recognize: Why Gay Men Can't Stop Watching Heated Rivalry

What happens when validation exposes what you're avoiding.

Jan 30 • Gino Cosme

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Why You Can’t Just Ask Him for Coffee

Why many gay men believe they’re only interesting if someone wants to sleep with them, and how to recount the evidence that contradicts it.

Jan 23 • Gino Cosme

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The Loneliness of Becoming Fluent in Being Misunderstood

What happens when gay men translate themselves so many times they forget the original.

Jan 15 • Gino Cosme

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December 2025

The New Year’s Eve No One Mentions

New Year’s Eve assumes you have somewhere to go back to.

Dec 31, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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Stop Hoping Your Family Will Change

What gay men need to know about tolerance vs. belonging this Christmas.

Dec 23, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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They're Not Seeing You: The Internal Violence Behind Homophobic Rage

Why the men who hate us most are actually fighting ghosts, and what that changes about how we carry their violence.

Dec 19, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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The Safety Paradox: Why Stability Feels Like a Threat to Gay Men

How childhood survival skills sabotage adult relationships, and why we choose crisis over "maintenance intimacy."

Dec 13, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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The Grief No One Prepared You For

Coming out was supposed to be liberation. So why does your body still vote against you in rooms full of friends?

Dec 5, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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November 2025

The Loneliness That Has No Name

The hidden loneliness many gay men carry. Not lack of friends but lack of recognition. How invisibility shapes mental health and connection.

Nov 27, 2025 • Gino Cosme

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