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Why Many Gay Men Feel Alone (Even Surrounded by People)
The epidemic of gay loneliness isn’t about being single. It’s about the survival tactics that saved us but left us strangers to each other.
13 hrs ago
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Gino Cosme
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The People-Pleasing Pattern Destroying Your Relationships
The difference between kindness and erasure, and why one keeps you lonely.
Oct 23
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Gino Cosme
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Why Gay Men Treat Friendships Like Ongoing Auditions
The attachment wound you’re not naming is the one happening with the people who are supposed to know you.
Oct 14
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Gino Cosme
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When Gay Men Forget Who Their Real Enemy Is
The same disgust that once told us we were wrong is the disgust coming for them. Stand with trans people, or side with the shame that still lives in…
Oct 7
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Gino Cosme
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September 2025
Why Gay Friendships Feel So Hard to Build After 30
The survival skills that kept us safe at thirteen are starving us of connection at thirty-five.
Sep 30
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Gino Cosme
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What If You Don’t Have a Chosen Family?
So many queer stories celebrate chosen family. This is for those who never found one.
Sep 23
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Gino Cosme
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The Intimacy Threshold: Why Gay Men Retreat When Connection Gets Real
The precise moment when promising connection suddenly cools, and why our nervous systems treat love like a threat.
Sep 16
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Gino Cosme
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The "Nice Gay" Contract: The Superpower That's Been Quietly Destroying Us
How over-adaptation became our survival strategy and why it's slowly eroding our capacity for desire, intimacy, and truth.
Sep 9
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Gino Cosme
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The Five Faces of Gay Loneliness
Gay loneliness isn’t about being alone. It’s auditioning for connection. Naming the five faces of gay loneliness.
Sep 2
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Gino Cosme
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August 2025
The Lies About Gay Men That Refuse to Die
Five myths about gay men that won't die in 2025. These harmful lies maintain straight supremacy, fuel discrimination, and impact our mental health.
Aug 26
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Gino Cosme
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Over-Adaptation: The Gay Superpower That's Eating You Alive
How the skills that helped you stay safe during childhood can lead to cycles of disconnection and hidden mental health issues.
Aug 19
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Gino Cosme
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The Gay Loneliness No One Wants to Talk About
The secret gay men tell therapists but not each other: Our own community rejects us harder than homophobia ever did.
Aug 12
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Gino Cosme
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