When Safety Training Becomes the Threat

Why gay men can handle crisis intimacy but fall apart when someone sees them on a Tuesday morning.

Dec 13 • Gino Cosme

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The Grief No One Prepared You For

Coming out was supposed to be liberation. So why does your body still vote against you in rooms full of friends?

Dec 5 • Gino Cosme

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November 2025

The Loneliness That Has No Name

The hidden loneliness many gay men carry. Not lack of friends but lack of recognition. How invisibility shapes mental health and connection.

Nov 27 • Gino Cosme

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Your Shame Thinks It’s Keeping You Safe

Why gay men mistake self-attack for self-protection

Nov 13 • Gino Cosme

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The Quiet Joy Gay Men Keep Missing

Why safety feels like boredom and ordinary moments matter more than celebration.

Nov 6 • Gino Cosme

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October 2025

Why Many Gay Men Feel Alone (Even Surrounded by People)

The epidemic of gay loneliness isn’t about being single. It’s about the survival tactics that saved us but left us strangers to each other.

Oct 30 • Gino Cosme

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The People-Pleasing Pattern Destroying Your Relationships

The difference between kindness and erasure, and why one keeps you lonely.

Oct 23 • Gino Cosme

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Why Gay Men Treat Friendships Like Ongoing Auditions

The attachment wound you’re not naming is the one happening with the people who are supposed to know you.

Oct 14 • Gino Cosme

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When Gay Men Forget Who Their Real Enemy Is

The same disgust that once told us we were wrong is the disgust coming for them. Stand with trans people, or side with the shame that still lives in…

Oct 7 • Gino Cosme

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September 2025

Why Gay Friendships Feel So Hard to Build After 30

The survival skills that kept us safe at thirteen are starving us of connection at thirty-five.

Sep 30 • Gino Cosme

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What If You Don’t Have a Chosen Family?

So many queer stories celebrate chosen family. This is for those who never found one.

Sep 23 • Gino Cosme

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The Intimacy Threshold: Why Gay Men Retreat When Connection Gets Real

The precise moment when promising connection suddenly cools, and why our nervous systems treat love like a threat.

Sep 16 • Gino Cosme

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