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The "Nice Gay" Contract: The Superpower That's Been Quietly Destroying Us
How over-adaptation became our survival strategy and why it's slowly eroding our capacity for desire, intimacy, and truth.
Sep 9
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Gino Cosme
20
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The Five Faces of Gay Loneliness
Gay loneliness isn’t about being alone. It’s auditioning for connection. Naming the five faces of gay loneliness.
Sep 2
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Gino Cosme
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August 2025
The Lies About Gay Men That Refuse to Die
Five myths about gay men that won't die in 2025. These harmful lies maintain straight supremacy, fuel discrimination, and impact our mental health.
Aug 26
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Gino Cosme
27
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Over-Adaptation: The Gay Superpower That's Eating You Alive
How the skills that helped you stay safe during childhood can lead to cycles of disconnection and hidden mental health issues.
Aug 19
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Gino Cosme
19
8
The Gay Loneliness No One Wants to Talk About
The secret gay men tell therapists but not each other: Our own community rejects us harder than homophobia ever did.
Aug 12
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Gino Cosme
30
15
When "Gay Enough" Isn't the Question: Living in the Quiet Middle
A deeply personal reflection on queer imposter syndrome, identity friction, and the quiet middle where many LGBTQ+ people live.
Aug 5
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Gino Cosme
17
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July 2025
When Surviving Becomes a Gift
Why LGBTQ+ Visibility Feels More Like Responsibility Than Victory
Jul 29
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Gino Cosme
10
3
The Mirror Lies: Body Image Struggles in the Queer Community
What if the mirror’s been lying all along? A raw look at queer body image, survival, and the pressure to be ‘enough.’
Jul 22
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Gino Cosme
9
Are You “Gay Enough”? The Hidden Shame of Queer Imposter Syndrome
The voice that whispers "you're not really gay" might be the cruelest conversion therapy of all
Jul 15
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Gino Cosme
3
LGBTQ+ Burnout: The Cost of Always Having to Explain Ourselves
When existing means educating everyone around you.
Jul 8
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Gino Cosme
11
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There's a Better Way to be Yourself
A fresh perspective on authenticity that honors both your truth and your boundaries.
Jul 1
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Gino Cosme
10
June 2025
The Gay Voice Dilemma: Code-Switching Between Safety & Self
When your natural voice becomes a calculated risk
Jun 24
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Gino Cosme
7
2
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