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The Gay Friend You Compete With
Envy in close gay friendships is more common than most men admit. A therapist explores why comparison persists, where it comes from, and how friendships…
 • Gino Cosme
The Gay Man the Algorithm Ignores
How gay culture built a product, and who got left off the label.
 • Gino Cosme
I Post Gay Content Because I’m Gay
On categorization as management, and why refusing the shelf unsettles people more than the content ever did.
 • Gino Cosme
Why Gay Men Turn Money Into Armor
What it costs when protection becomes your entire personality.
 • Gino Cosme
When a Gay Friendship Ends, the Grief Is Bigger Than the Friendship
For a lot of us, close friends weren’t supplemental. They were structural. The loss knows the difference even when we don’t.
 • Gino Cosme
What Older Gay Men Know About Reinvention
On starting over at an age when everyone else is winding down, and what that looks like.
 • Gino Cosme
Why You Can’t Just Ask Him for Coffee
Why many gay men believe they’re only interesting if someone wants to sleep with them, and how to recount the evidence that contradicts it.
 • Gino Cosme
Stop Hoping Your Family Will Change
What gay men need to know about tolerance vs. belonging this Christmas.
 • Gino Cosme
The Loneliness That Has No Name
Why gay men feel most alone when surrounded by people
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Why Many Gay Men Feel Alone (Even Surrounded by People)
The epidemic of gay loneliness isn’t about being single. It’s about the survival tactics that saved us but left us strangers to each other.
 • Gino Cosme
Why Gay Men Treat Friendships Like Ongoing Auditions
The attachment wound you’re not naming is the one happening with the people who are supposed to know you.
 • Gino Cosme
When Gay Men Forget Who Their Real Enemy Is
The same disgust that once told us we were wrong is the disgust coming for them. Stand with trans people, or side with the shame that still lives in…
 • Gino Cosme
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