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Why Gay Men Treat Friendships Like Ongoing Auditions
The attachment wound you’re not naming is the one happening with the people who are supposed to know you.
Oct 14
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Gino Cosme
23
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When Gay Men Forget Who Their Real Enemy Is
The same disgust that once told us we were wrong is the disgust coming for them. Stand with trans people, or side with the shame that still lives in…
Oct 7
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Gino Cosme
19
5
Why Gay Friendships Feel So Hard to Build After 30
The survival skills that kept us safe at thirteen are starving us of connection at thirty-five.
Sep 30
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Gino Cosme
15
10
What If You Don’t Have a Chosen Family?
So many queer stories celebrate chosen family. This is for those who never found one.
Sep 23
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Gino Cosme
18
6
The "Nice Gay" Contract: The Superpower That's Been Quietly Destroying Us
How over-adaptation became our survival strategy and why it's slowly eroding our capacity for desire, intimacy, and truth.
Sep 9
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Gino Cosme
25
6
The Gay Loneliness No One Wants to Talk About
The secret gay men tell therapists but not each other: Our own community rejects us harder than homophobia ever did.
Aug 12
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Gino Cosme
32
19
When "Gay Enough" Isn't the Question: Living in the Quiet Middle
A deeply personal reflection on queer imposter syndrome, identity friction, and the quiet middle where many LGBTQ+ people live.
Aug 5
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Gino Cosme
18
11
When Surviving Becomes a Gift
Why LGBTQ+ Visibility Feels More Like Responsibility Than Victory
Jul 29
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Gino Cosme
10
3
Are You “Gay Enough”? The Hidden Shame of Queer Imposter Syndrome
The voice that whispers "you're not really gay" might be the cruelest conversion therapy of all
Jul 15
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Gino Cosme
3
The Silent Struggle: Growing Up Gay in a World That Didn't Acknowledge You
When invisibility becomes your first language, finding yourself takes a lifetime
Jun 10
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Gino Cosme
17
When Queer Communities Fall Short
Discover why LGBTQ chosen family rejection cuts deeper than expected—and what to do when queer communities replicate the pain of your past.
May 30
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Gino Cosme
14
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The Loneliness That Follows Pride: When Visibility Isn't Enough
Why the aftermath of Pride Month reveals deeper truths about connection and community
May 23
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Gino Cosme
11
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