Why I’m Here — And Why I Won’t Sugar-Coat It
I’m Gino. 🏳️🌈
Gay therapist by profession, lifelong black-T-shirt enthusiast by aesthetic, and permanent resident of the overthinking zone.
My job? Name the hard truths queer life keeps sweeping under a rainbow rug.
My promise? Explain why they hurt, not lecture you on “how to fix yourself.”
The Short Version
If performative Pride posts make your skin crawl but you still crave genuine connection, you’re in the right inbox.
If you’re brilliant at self-analysis yet baffled by your own self-doubt, I’m talking to you.
If you want clarity, not cute coping hacks, pull up a chair.
The Longer, Messier Version
I grew up misfitting every script handed to me.
To stay safe I became a professional chameleon: perfect grades, easy smiles, zero evidence of discomfort. It worked, until it didn’t.
Cue the greatest-hits reel of queer survival: alcohol fog, depression, burnout, toxic relationships that felt like home because chaos was home. Therapy, years of it, taught me healing is a crime-scene spiral, not a neat timeline.
Today I’m 45, licensed, and spend my days in online sessions with gay clients on five continents. Off-session I’m tucked away in Portugal with my husband of nearly two decades, forever coaxing raw feelings into sentences that land clean and true.
Born to Portuguese parents, raised under African sun, seasoned in China, Germany, the UK, now back on Portuguese soil - still allergic to small talk, still wearing black t-shirts. 🇵🇹
Why Unfiltered Clarity Exists
Because queer people aren’t broken - we’re over-adapted.
Because “It Gets Better” left out the fine print.
Because performing wellness is just another closet.
And because someone needs to say, without flinching: “Here’s why your nervous system still screams in a room full of straight allies.”
What You’ll Get Each Week
Free Essays (every Tuesday)
About 1,100 words of “why-do” storytelling and analysis
Topics like family-dinner performance art, code-switching fatigue, post-coming-out blues, queer-aging panic
Outcome: the relief of recognition and shareable proof you’re not alone
Paid Deep Dives (twice a month)
Therapist-designed frameworks and reflection tools, such as:
Authenticity Spectrum
Connection Audit
Pride Safety Plan
Intra-Community Healing Guide
Outcome: a portable toolkit you can actually use, not frame on a wall
No step-by-step “Ten Ways to Be Happy.” No pastel-colored affirmations. Just the psychology behind your sharpest aches, delivered with the same blunt compassion I offer my clients.
Read, Breathe, Pass It On
If a line here punches you in the gut, in a good way, forward it to someone still dancing around the truth. We get braver together.
Unfiltered Clarity is educational, not therapy. Nothing here diagnoses, treats, or replaces professional care. If you need that next step, please take it—preferably with someone who knows the difference between rainbow marketing and real help.
