The Lies About Gay Men That Refuse to Die
How straight supremacy repackages old lies about gay men
The conference room went quiet when Jake* mentioned something about his husband's job transfer. Thirty seconds of awkwardness before someone changes the subject to quarterly projections. Later, by the coffee machine, a coworker sidles up: "So you’re gay. Funny, you don’t act gay." Jake's tongue presses against his teeth. Does he educate or evaporate?
This is 2025, and we're still here.
Still having to explain why these misconceptions about gay men are wrong.
These aren't harmless stereotypes, they're built from lies that serve a purpose. Every. Single. One. Keeps us in our place, justifies treating us badly, maintains the fiction that straight is normal and everything else is broken.
What gets me most? Some of us have bought into this garbage so completely that we're basically doing their work for them. Policing each other. Staying invisible. Playing respectability politics like it's going to save us.
If you're straight and reading this: I kn…