Deep Dive: 3 Hidden Patterns in Queer Mental Health

Breaking free from the invisible scripts holding queer people back

There's a moment I witness often as a gay psychotherapist. A client will pause, tears in his eyes, and whisper, "I thought it was just me." In that vulnerable instant, the truth emerges: he's not alone.

With nearly two decades of specializing in LGBTQ+ mental health, I've seen the same hidden patterns play out in countless queer lives—deeper emotional currents beyond surface-level issues, the kind that usually only come up behind closed therapy doors. As a paying subscriber, you get private, therapist-level insights into these patterns.

Why share this in a subscriber-only post? Because understanding these hidden patterns can be life-changing. When you recognize the invisible script that's been running in the background (and that “it’s not just you being ‘broken’ or ‘dramatic’”), it brings relief, clarity, and the power to start changing.

What follows are three deeply rooted patterns I consistently see queer individuals struggling with, along with perspectives on how to begin shifting the…