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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Wow Gino, this is powerful. I know you write to gay men, but that is the power of your writing (and thinking and caring), it speaks beyond your audience. Thank you for making me a little more tuned in to someone else's experience, even when I can find a little of my own inside of it too.

Gino Cosme's avatar

Thank you, that means a lot. ☺️ Glad you found something of your own in it too.

Karthik Gurumurthy's avatar

Well, well, well. If it isn’t my own intercontinental bestie trying to steal my man.

Don‘t you try anything funny, missy🤬Gino‘s MINE!

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Haha. I DO love him too, but maybe there is trim for both of us😉

Gino Cosme's avatar

Please form an orderly queue. Attention is currently being distributed on a wildly unfair and completely arbitrary basis. 😃

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Careful, or we leave you for each other:)

Karthik Gurumurthy's avatar

Oh you‘re evil, T😏

Karthik Gurumurthy's avatar

Maybe. 😤

The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

I’ll take it!!!

Karthik Gurumurthy's avatar

My parents are alive, and I‘m trying to mend our relationship—which has always been strained, especially after I was outed—one tiny step at a time. But the one main thing we have in common is our fathers‘ line, "Look after your mother."

It must have been hell to feel like a stranger with your own father, and for every other gay man who had to care for their family despite feeling like that. I‘m so very sorry, Gino. 🩷

Gino Cosme's avatar

That showing up in both our stories reveals how fathers pass things down for many of us. One tiny step at a time is real progress, especially considering what happened between you after being outed.

Daniel's avatar

Personally and perhaps thankfully, my two siblings live much closer to our parents who are both in ill health.

Gino Cosme's avatar

That can be a real advantage. Proximity changes who gets assumed into the role before anyone's asked.