“This vocal code-switching isn't vanity or internalized homophobia … It's adaptation. When you grow up learning that certain sounds mark you as prey, you develop the ability to camouflage through frequency.”
Thank you for saying that. I’ve always been aware that I code-switch. From the moment someone mistook me on the telephone for my mother at a very early age. I was ready to add that I have no intention of stopping doing this for my own safety, and then you basically said the same. 🥰
Your phone call story is such a vivid reminder of how we learn to engineer our own safety. Owning that switch is smart self-care, not something to unlearn 🛡️💕
“This vocal code-switching isn't vanity or internalized homophobia … It's adaptation. When you grow up learning that certain sounds mark you as prey, you develop the ability to camouflage through frequency.”
Thank you for saying that. I’ve always been aware that I code-switch. From the moment someone mistook me on the telephone for my mother at a very early age. I was ready to add that I have no intention of stopping doing this for my own safety, and then you basically said the same. 🥰
Your phone call story is such a vivid reminder of how we learn to engineer our own safety. Owning that switch is smart self-care, not something to unlearn 🛡️💕