5 Powerful Ways Older Gay Men Can Reclaim Their Sexuality

Feb 04, 2025

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Last week, a client broke down in his session.

“I feel invisible. Like I’ve aged out of being desirable.”

These words came from a 65-year-old executive who’d shaped successful businesses but felt crushed by gay culture’s obsession with youth.

His words hit home.

Ten years ago, I sat on the other side of a similar conversation, voicing the same fears to my own therapist. I was barely 35.

Now at 45, after many years specializing in therapy for gay men, I’ve witnessed something remarkable among clients over 50.

They’re completely rewriting the rules about:

What I’ve learned from my clients has transformed both my practice and my relationship with aging.

Let’s be clear: this isn’t another article about “aging gracefully” or “accepting limitations.”

Those narratives? Pure BS.

What you’re about to read comes from real men who are:

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