Often, chemistry is the holy grail when it comes to dating. There appears to be an expectation that within the first, second, or third date, a magical spark will erupt, indicating that this is the person. Yet I often see that the absence of the spark is usually a way out of dating someone who, on paper, seems promising.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard a version of “He’s good on paper, but there were no sparks.”
What follows are examples of how this plays out amongst gay men.